By Lesle Jansen and Kabir Bavikatte
Murder is no test of masculinity. There are macho alternative cultures full of justice and integrity
Murder is no test of masculinity. There are macho alternative cultures full of justice and integrity
Article appearing in the Cape Argus, 22 April 2014 |
The film got me thinking on rites of passage for boys in
other cultures. On a recent work trip to Japan, I went to the local budokan
(martial arts training hall) to train with the judo club. At the budokan, the
teacher, a man in his seventies informed me that the word budo in budokan is
the samurai version of the knightly code of chivalry. It includes qualities
such as justice, benevolence, integrity, honor and discipline. He said that
judo means the ‘gentle-way.’ This didn’t mean that it wasn’t devastatingly
effective, but rather that it was an art of sublimating raw aggression in a way
that elegance overcomes bluster.
I was amazed at how activities at the budokan seemed like a
culturally rooted rite of passage for young men. Teachers taught various
techniques all requiring courage, persistence and trust and performed with
deadly earnest. The members were constantly
reminded that they are entrusted with each other’s safety and their focus
should be on aggressive play rather than winning at all costs.
At the budokan, to be a man was to epitomize budo. On the
mat the young men threw, grappled, locked and choked with unmatched fury but
lacked the meanness and cruelty symptomatic of frustrated aggression. Even in
the heat of combat, they displayed a sense of fair play and concern for each
other’s safety. The few women members I spoke with said that not once did they
feel uncomfortable or violated when training with the men. Instead they felt
supported and their boundaries respected without any gratis concessions.
My experience at the budokan reminded me of a time several
years ago when I acted as a lawyer for the Samburu. The Samburu are pastoralists
who roam the dusty and drought prone plains of the lion infested Rift Valley
province in Kenya. What intrigued me was
despite their indifference to lions, as dusk approached the Samburu would hurry
back to their kraals. I was also curious about the phenomenon where many of the
Samburu men had AK 47s slung across their backs, an incongruity among
pastoralists. On asking, I was told that they were concerned about cattle
raiders who had killed a number of young men recently.
Apparently, the Samburu tribes have always had a rite of
passage, where an adolescent to be recognized as a man in his tribe, had to
steal cattle from another tribe. Cattle raids were conducted according to
cultural norms that prohibited killing and gratuitous violence. No tribe lost out
on their cattle since they always stole back cattle from another tribe.
Moreover cattle raids ensured peace by creating camaraderie and competition
among the young men of different tribes. This rite was designed to help boys
channel their aggression as they entered manhood. I had witnessed similar such
rites to manhood amongst various indigenous peoples I had worked with.
However the civil war in neighbouring Somalia had introduced
AK47’s into this mix. Cattle raiders, owing no allegiance to any tribe, used it
as a weapon of choice. They roamed the Rift Valley, killing wantonly on their
raids, and raided cattle not as a cultural practice, but for sale. In self-
defence the Samburu men, had taken to arming themselves, leading to dangerous
times where minor conflicts could spiral out of control.
I came away from Kenya feeling that the Samburu were on to
something. They had developed a rite of passage that embraced and directed
youthful aggression to the service of the community. Though a long way off from
rural Kenya, I had witnessed a similar sublimation of aggression at the
budokan. Youthful aggression was
expressed in its most elemental form, at the level of the body, and then molded
into the high art of budo. The initiation to manhood in both these cultures
involved ritualized aggression at the level of the body. The rituals initiated
boys into a manhood that embodied authentic self- expression while caring for
others.
These cross-cultural rites of passage bring us back to the
questions posed by Four Corners. They ask for an honest discussion in South
Africa on mature masculinity and how we raise boys. They force a conversation
on wholesome rites of passage for boys, which replace gangs and positively
channel youthful aggression in a dangerous age of gender, gang and xenophobic
violence.
The natural fierceness of many men today seems to be
infected with an anemic desperation symptomatic of both rampant unemployment
and soul-destroying urban service jobs. We are witnessing a rise in overgrown
boys who listlessly roam the streets, Internet and malls unsure of what they
are seeking but yearning to feel alive. At times their bottled up aggression
makes them bullies who do appalling things to their families, neighbors and
communities.
We will probably never be rid of this aggression. Instead in
the tradition of that old master of sublime aggression, Madiba, we must
cultivate rites of passage that transform this unrefined energy into something
majestic. We need to transcend insecure machismo and wear our masculinity with
the dignity of a warm cloak that nurtures.
Lesle Jansen and Dr. Kabir Bavikatte coordinate the Heroes
Project with Natural Justice (Lawyers for Communities and the Environment). The
Project complements legal strategies with psychosocial interventions that
include rites of passage programs. Lesle can be contacted at
lesle (at)naturaljustice.org.za. This article was first published in the Cape Argus newspaper on April 22, 2014.
1 comment:
Thanks for the initiation us in these things.
Indian adult
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